Tuesday, May 6, 2008

The Road Abuse May Take You Down.

The more I research about abuse the more the topic saddens me. I feel like I can feel my abused friend pain. The pain that her father is given her is causing her to do bad things such as cut her self , drink and smoke constantly. The unhappy home is driving her down a bad paths.I am afraid that if she does not escape she will either be hurt very badly were she would be hospitalized or even beaten to death. If her stepdad cannot controll his anger he should not be in the house hold. I found out that abusers are very needed and controlling.

There are steps that abusers can take that can change there pattern. When you start feelimg angry take deep breaths, focus on your body and walk away. Return once you have cooled down. Start keeping journals when you become angry sit down and writ down your thoughts and feelings. Join an anger management group. Deny that a problem exist. (Mark Evans)

Even though there are many steps that can be taken to stop abusing how do you get the person to follow these steps when they don't realize what they are doing.
Evans, Mark. "Abusive Relationships." Steps For Abusers .
www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

If a person cant stop abusing you because they cant see it or they feel as though there not doing any wrong show them there damage. when a person is abusing you physically I think you should show them what there doing. If they leave marks and bruises when the person is a calmed down and is back to normal show um wat he/she has done and then tell em how you feel and that it hurts.Mayb then he/she will realize they have a problem. And they haveto get that problem taking care of.

Anonymous said...

i agree child abuse is very sad! i am doing something very simuliar to your subject and i have found that cutting your self and eating disorders is a sign of child abuse! and also most of the abusers are male so yea i agree if he can't controll himself then he shouldt be there!te